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Handling a Controlling Man --The Fried Chicken Break upArticle Summary: A therapist tells you how her client handled her controlling boyfriend when a broke up with her over fried chicken.
On Friday night, Leslie and her live-in boyfriend of 8 months were at his mom's house for a fried chicken dinner, and Leslie took a few pieces home with her because it was so good.

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This was the beginning of the end as their argument began to escalate. She called him a jerk and asked why he was so angry. He said he wasn't angry and told her to stop telling him how he feels.

Then she said, "Never mind!," and threw the chicken out the window. The fight became vicious with name calling and even some shoving by the time they got [url=http://mawrplease.blogs.brynmawr.edu/2012/04/30/fauxican-hot-chocolate/#comment-499312]The Spanish classes on line are the most simple and fun way to learn the language. - written by Freddy Poveda[/url] home.

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Leslie couldn't believe what had just happened! And since she now realizes what a control freak he is, she knew he was just trying to punish and intimidate her again by moving out.

By Monday night, he was apologizing and begging her to talk to him. She messaged him back that there was nothing to talk about. [url=http://www.jb-pr.co.uk]Hollister UK[/url]
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Leslie stayed strong and told him there was no way she was taking the blame for what happened and that it's over because she will not give him the chance to hurt her like that again! However, she does still love him and [url=http://www.jewelmer.fr/category/air-jordan-pas-cher/]air jordan pas cher[/url] wants to know what to do.

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Let him know that the real issue here is his controlling, self-righteous, self-centered attitude,
and that his moving out is just a part of that.

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Don't fight with him about who's right and who's wrong -- that just causes escalation and gets you no where.
Instead let him know what you will and won't put up with by setting a boundary about how he treats you and a consequence such as, "Every time you act controlling or self-righteous with me, I'll say 'You're doing it again,' and if you [url=http://home.jnds.com.cn/home.php?mod=space&uid=195229&do=blog&quickforward=1&id=221929]hogan outlet online Silver Earrings Is A Dream Of[/url] don't stop, I leave the situation.
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Should Leslie [url=http://www.cdille.fr/category/louboutin-soldes/]louboutin soldes[/url] try all of this or just chalk it up to "Another one bites the dust!"? If he justifies his controlling, self-righteous ways, Leslie is wasting her time.
On the other hand, if he gets it and is willing to work on himself and change his bad behavior, she should go for it because she will grow as she stands up to him and teaches him how she wants to be treated.
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